When we love someone, we want the best for that person and we accept them for who they are. We want to do things that will make them happy although, we must be careful not to smother them with our undivided attention. We don’t need to buy them either, by continually showering them with gifts.

People, who truly love one another, give each other space to grow and to follow their own destiny. If you insist that things are always done your way, then you are exercising control and not love.

People in long term relationships can get bored with each other and sometimes just to mix it up a bit, they indulge in a battle of wits, over time, this can deteriate to the level of sarcasm. If they don’t find a better way to communicate or stop it there, then the sarcasm can give way to ridicule. This leaves its mark by wounding the participants pride and eventually it can destroy the relationship itself. Sarcasm is not a toy or a game, it’s a hand grenade and you will do well, not to play with it.

People who are in love look out for each other and that is where I believe that Loyalty comes in. Let’s say that you love someone and you hear them being discussed in a malicious fashion, what do you do?

What if someone has deliberately damaged their belongings, their car or their home and you know who it was, then what do you do?

Would you look the other way, or rationalise your non involvement by saying that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Or, do you think that would be nothing short of a cop out? Can we truly love anyone without supporting them and standing up for them, whether or not, they are actually present?

I don’t believe that you can. To me, that would be no different from the people who ignore their partners when their “friends” are around.

I believe that in both cases, the message is clear. You may be good enough for me when we are alone, however, your NOT good enough for me to go out on a limb for, and possible attract some flak.

If you have ever experienced this, or a variation of this, then you may need to take another look at what you have been calling LOVE.

You should never have to ask or beg for love. You can only receive love if your partner wants to give it to you. Love is a gift and Loyalty is its true companion.

© Theresa Sives 2012

PS – Please don’t waste your time looking for “your soul mate” your time would be more productively spent, buying a metal detector and looking for gold. But hey, that’s just my opinion and you know that I am always happy to hear yours.